Saturday, March 29, 2014

To Love Or Not To Love?

 Some weeks ago I had an interesting chat with one of my fans on my facebook page. I just thought it's worth sharing. :)

    • Fan:  how to know if we really love someone.....and if the person we love is the right one for us.....??? 

    • Just by feeling and believing.

  • March 14
    Fan:
    • But how do we know that if we are loving someone out of loneliness or or is it a true love??

    • You must know yourself well in order to know that.

  • March 14
    Fan:
    • And how do we differentiate between infatuation and real love?

    • I guess it takes time.

  • March 14
    Fan:
    • When is the right time to fall in love with someone ??

    • There is no such thing as right time for love.

  • March 14
    Fan:
    • Do we need to be well settled in our life and career before loving someone??
  • March 14
    Fan:
    • But if we get into commitment with someone......and if we propose someone......then we need to be well settled so as to live happily together...as there are so many things to sustain a healthy relationship like a good job.....a good house.....safety for the future child etc.... What do u say?

    • And why not build everything together?

  • March 14
    Fan:
    • But....if you want to give your girl all the happiness in this world and if you want to make her a princess and provide her with all the basic need..and also to fulfil all her wishes....we need to stand on our own feet first......no doubts that love is very important....but is only love enough....(being practical). ???

    • Love is the only thing that counts. You know, when I visited my... I don't know what to call him... On the first morning he gave me money and said I can spend it on whatever I want to. To have a coffee in the city or have lunch or something while he is at work. And I was wondering if that money would be enough to buy one more hour with him... So no, I didn't buy anything for myself. Money didn't make me happy. I did use it though. I bought groceries to make a dinner for him so I guess I made him happy. 

  • Fan:
    March 1
    • I agree...you're absolutely right.....but...u know.....I've been hurt in love once.....I was madly in love with that girl....we were in a relationship for three years...(we both were in school that time)....I did all the funny, romantic, nice, cute, emotional things for her and with her.....I was so happy.....I think we both were very happy......and then came the time...when she left me alone......she went to Canada for studying.....she came back after one year.....and she was a totally different person that time.......she had forgotten all the love and was behaving like we were just normal friends......I tried to ask her if there was any thing that she was hiding from me.....but her behavior was totally changed....and she was not interested in talking to me anymore.......I was shattered......it's been 5 years since that time......yes I've moved on..,,,,,but.........now I'm afraid to love again......  

    • If you are affraid to love, then youy haven't moved on. You need to forgive her for all the pain you felt. And you also need to forgive yourself. Just release everything negative and remember only the good things. If it was love as you say then it was all worth it. I've had just a few days feeling happy for love in last three years and I still think it was worth it.

  • March 15
    Fan:
    • Yes....I can forgive her.....but.....can I forget her.....?? ... Will I be able to do all the stupid, funny and romantic things with anyone else that I did with my first love....??

    • You don't need to forget her. And yes, you will be able to do all those things when you meet the person who moves you and inspires you. :)

  • March 15
    Fan:
    • Hmmmm.....u r right......I've started liking a girl.......shall I dare to love her???

    • You don't decide if you will dare to love someone. Love just happens, it can't be under control.

Sunday, March 23, 2014

Different

- I went to my office and the whole morning I was thinking it should feel different, somebody is at my home, in my bed... I should feel something is different, but I don't.
- No, you're supposed to feel exactly the same, to be comfortable with me being here.

Don't really know if he realised what I was trying to say. Difference was supposed to be felt when I was gone.
Does he feel it? Was anything in his life different after my visit ended? Is anything different now when I am no longer part of it? With me everything is exactly the same. Everything except the pain...