Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone. It isn't just death we have to grieve. It's life... It's loss... It's change. And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad... The thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn in on a dime...
That's how you stay alive. When it hurts so much you can't breathe, that's how you survive... By remembering that one day, somehow... Impossibly... It won't feel this way, it won't hurt this much.
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Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way. So the best we can do, the best anyone can do is try for honesty. The really crappy thing, the worst part of grief , is that you can't control it. The best we can do is let ourselves feel it when it comes... And let it go when we can. The very worst part is that the minute you think you're past it, it starts all over again... And always, every time... It takes your breath away.
That's how you stay alive. When it hurts so much you can't breathe, that's how you survive... By remembering that one day, somehow... Impossibly... It won't feel this way, it won't hurt this much.
Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way. So the best we can do, the best anyone can do is try for honesty. The really crappy thing, the worst part of grief , is that you can't control it. The best we can do is let ourselves feel it when it comes... And let it go when we can. The very worst part is that the minute you think you're past it, it starts all over again... And always, every time... It takes your breath away.
*this text is taken from one of my favorite TV shows "Grey's Anatomy" season 6, episode 2
Beautiful, let me add, when you do feel grief, this is an opportunity to grow and to
ReplyDeletelearn about yourself. Ask yourself, Why do I feel this way? Why am I sad? What is it
that scares me so much, what is that makes me think I can't cope?
I've been helped a lot in my times of grieving by reading what the old stoics had to say. I won't elaborate here, just this: Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Grieve, let it wash over you, don't control it, but also, come on the other side of it as a better, more centered person.
Yes, I completely agree with you. But not many people can see good things in pain, not many of them can believe that sun will really shine after the storm and, unfortunately, not many of them learn from it. Instead, they just build up walls and become prisoners of their minds.
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