When little, we cry every day when dear people leave us because we're afraid they won't come back. But they always do. So, how come we never get used to it? Why do we never feel calm knowing that, when dear people leave, they will surely come back one day? Why does it always hurt and scare us?
There is a theory of emotional attachment that we develop as children:
ReplyDeletehttp://www.helpguide.org/mental/eqa_attachment_bond.htm
Depending on the way we were raised by our parents and our inborn temperament, we develop a way of relating to other people.
If we have been taught secure attachment, we can deal with people leaving, trusting them to return and in being to cope if the don't.
If we have learned to attach anxiously, we always worry that we will be abandoned, that love is transient and short-lived.
Then there is ambivalence, when we don't care if people leave or not. We are cold, unable to connect and love in a meaningful way.
Interesting article! Thank you. :)
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